I know, it’s crazy – the “sex toy girl” needs advice about sex? I bet you thought it would never happen, but it has. I’m stumped and I’m asking all of our readers to help me out. I’m really great at getting myself off, I just need some help when it comes to the couples stuff.
So I’ve just started seeing this new man, and one of the many things I enjoy about him is his honesty. And well, his dick too, but mainly his honesty. We talk a lot. And last night we got to talking about the transition time between sex positions. Apparently it takes me too long to go from missionary to doggy and he loses his erection. (I would have just asked Lilith for some advice, but all of her sex positions are a little more complicated than what I’m looking for.)
Now let me clarify, it doesn’t take me 45 minutes or anything to roll over, but I do have some issues and I can’t just flip over and be ready like the porn stars do. I need a pillow to lean on so I don’t throw my back out. I probably need some more lube because we’ve been going at it for 30 minutes already and he’s not done. And then I’ve got to get everything in position because he doesn’t line up with the right holes immediately (and we don’t want any of that “oops! wrong hole!” crap.) I’m sure that last issue will start to be resolved as we keep trying to figure things out, but until we do…it’s a mood killer, I’ll tell ya.
I care about this guy, so instead of being completely offended that we can’t have sex any more because I took too long to get ready, I want to do something about it. Does anyone have any suggestions on ways I can move quicker? Or maybe tips on how he can keep his erection while I get situated? His girth makes it near impossible to use cock rings (trust me, I’ve been looking for a good one!) and I guess I could reapply the lube before we switch, but I feel like there’s probably a better solution out there that I’m not aware of.
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instead of using lube why don’t you just give him some sloppy throat gagging oral, it’s guaranteed to get him back up, trust me alot of guys dont like lube unless we’re putting it in ur back door, we prefer saliva. THE WETTER THE BETTER!! now roll over and don’t forget to have pigtails once in awhile for a little treat, haha enjoy!!
Maybe have the pillow ready on the bed? Or something? Lol.
I think the best thing you could do would be to turn the transition into another aspect of the sex. Go from missionary to handjob, add in some lube while you stroke him, and just keep stroking him until you can flip over and get comfy, then go back into fucking?
I know my suggestion isn’t the best ever, but I hope it helps or you at least find something that works for you two.
Instead of going doggy on the bed, why not just lay across the edge of the bed? From waist up on the bed, wait down, hanging onto the floor. This way you can raise up to your feet if you want or stay on your knees? Of, you could always lay flat on your belly and have him enter that way! I enjoy both ways and both would be quick to get into position! If he start losing his erection, ask him to masterbate over you while you are getting ready or let him rub between the cheeks!
If you and this guy really do connect in the way you say you do and his honesty is one of the things you appreciate about him, the solution should be pretty straighforward.
As I read it, the issue is that it takes time for you to move into a new position and he loses his erection during that period, so the solution is to find a way for him to remain aroused while you’re “staging” for the next phase.
#1: He should stroke himself. Plain and simple. A lot of guys do it, and if you watch porn you’ll even see the guys in the movies doing it. If he’s at all squidgy about doing that in front of you, there are other issues at hand. (No pun intended.)
#2: The thing to make #1 more fun would be for you to talk dirty to him. If you enjoy talking with him, you should really enjoy telling him how much you want him, how he should stay hard for you, etc.
The key to mind-blowing sex, for me at least, is communication. Stay connected, and it’ll be wonderful.
Maybe the solution is to not look like Jay Leno so he can be more consistently turned on by you?
I look like Leno? Hm…that might not be something I can fix easily. But I suppose if I looked like Leno, he wouldn’t be with me in the first place, unless he’s a little gay. Which, well, he might be and this whole conversation becomes moot.